This weekend we continued our REALationship series at C3. Chris Pipes, our Minister of Worship, spoke an encouraging message on Getting REAL in our marriages. If you missed this weekend’s message, I encourage you to watch it here and listen to it here. Also,if you were not at C3 this weekend, or if you would like to give your tithe or offering, you can give online by clicking here.
Here are 4 ways to have a REAL Marriage:
1. Right priorities
2 Corinthians 5:9
“So we make it our goal to please him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it.” (NIV)
Our goal in life, whether we are married or not, is to please God. When our goal in marriage is to please God then everything revolves around that goal.
2. Engage in intimacy
Husbands and wives need to put God first in their relationship and engage in spiritual intimacy. And one of the primary ways they do this is by understanding their God created roles.
Ephesians 5:22-33 (NIV)
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbandsas you do to the Lord.For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbandsin everything.
Husbands, love your wives,just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for herto make her holy,cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himselfas a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.In this same way, husbands ought to love their wivesas their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body.“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wifeas he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
3. Act in love
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)
“Love is patient,love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,it is not easily angered,it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evilbut rejoices with the truth.It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
4. Learn humility & forgiveness
2 Chronicles 7;14 (NIV)
“If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin…”
Philippians 2:3 (NIV)
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.”
Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV)
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
You can choose to be humble and forgive your spouse…
1. By keeping short relational accounts.
Ephesians 4:26 (NIV) “Do not let the sun go down on your anger.”
2. By choosing to give up your right to be offended.
3. By making 4 promises:
- I promise not to dwell on this incident.
- I promise not to bring up this incident again and use it against you.
- I promise not to talk to others about this incident.
- I promise not to let this incident stand between us or hinder our personal relationship.
1 Peter 4:8
“Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”
This weekend’s worship set included…
Nothing Is Impossible –
Unending Love – Hillsong
You Are For Me – Kari Jobe
Run – Hillsong