Keys to Healthy Parenting

This weekend Matt gave me the awesome privelege of speaking on 'keys to
healthy parenting'.  I am so thankful for his leadership in our church and
our family.  I am the wife and mom I am today because of his leadership.

If you joined us this weekend, you know I didn't quite get to all my
points, so here are the three main points of the sermon and some practical
steps to follow for each point.  Click on this link and I will talk you through the main points or,  you can also check out the
live feed for the full
message.

Remaining points-click here to listen

1. Start Now –

2 Timonthy 3:15 (NLT)  You have been taught by the holy Scriptures
from childhood, and they have given you the wisdom to receive the salvation
that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus.2 Timonthy 3:15 (NLT)  You have
been taught by the holy Scriptures from childhood, and they have given you the
wisdom to receive the salvation that comes by trusting in Christ Jesus.

Hebrews 4:12  For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than
any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints
and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.Hebrews 4:12
 For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged
sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it
judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

Joshua 1:8  Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth;
meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything
written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.Joshua 1:8  Do
not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and
night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will
be prosperous and successful.

*Parents, if you want your kids to be successful in math and history,
encourage them to memorize scripture.  His Word promises success and
prosperity if we do. 

*Dad’s especially need to read God’s Word to your kids.

*Mom & dads who have little kids – let them act out the
stories.  Read Queen Esther to your daughters – let her act it out and be
the princess.

*Read about David killing Goliath/War stories from the Old Testament –
Gideon who became a mighty warrior

*Get kids worship CDs- fill your home and your car with praise and
worship.

*Put your kids in children's ministry and student ministry – we are here
to partner with your kids.  Allow us the opportunity to do that.  You
don't let your kids choose whether or not they will go to school, so don't let
them choose not to go to children' church.  Be the parent!

2. Live Consistently – 

Psalm 145:13 (NIV)….The Lord is faithful to all his promises and loving
toward all he has made…

Psalm 145: 17 (TLB) The Lord is fair in everything he does and full of
kindness

*We try to be the same at home and at church.  Don’t be satan during
the week and try to be saintly at church.

*Be consistent in discipline – don't threaten and not follow through.
 Do what you say you are going to do.

*Inconsistent parents produce insecure children and bitter children.

*Most of what a child learns is caught, not taught – what do they see you
doing?

*You want them to read the Bible –  you have to  read the Bible
– be the leader in your home

*Pray – for your kids and with your kids

*Serve – join a ministry team and let them see you making God's House a
priority

*Blow it – there will be times you need to ask your kids for forgiveness
because you've blown it – there will also be times you need to extend
forgiveness because your kids has blown it.

*Love your spouse – how do you want your son to treat his wife?  How
do you want your daughter to be treated? That is how you should love your
spouse.

3. Look for teachable moments –

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 (NLT)   And you must commit yourselves
wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today.  Repeat them
again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when
you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting
up.  

*Show them God in every teaching situation (even when you discipline) 

What are we working on now?

*It’s a new season – we are not home schooling 2 of our 3; we have one in
high school one in middle school and one in elementary – new phase of life and
we are seeking God for wisdom along the way.

Family Nights - We want to be intentional to build our
relationships with our kids.

Family Meetings - We are all busy and a family meeting allows you to
be proactive.

Family Traditions  - being intentional with vacations.

What stage is your family in?  Start there.  Seek Godly wisdom
and advice from HIs word.  We believe that the Bible has the solution to
everything we go through in life.  Be in God's Word and allow Him to teach
you how to be Godly parents. 

Remember, there are no perfect parents, but we have a perfect Father who
loves us and is cheering us on!

Martha

  • Thanks so much Martha for sharing and pointing out some excellent Biblical Priciples for us!

  • Betsy Otero

    Martha,I just wanted to say Thanks for reminding me the importance of memorizing God’s word. I started to this morning (Romans 12:9-11)As I read this passage (Love must be sincere.) God showed me that sometimes my love is not sincere, and so I began my journey to sit at Jesus feet everyday and hear,learn and memorize God’s word,as it makes me more like Jesus. Thanks Betsy