Is Your Marriage on a Mountaintop?

Mountaintop of Marriage 


Martha and I just returned
from getting away for a few days of praying, preparing and planning for the
future. We actually didn’t go to the mountains but we went to the beach (next
time we might go to the mountains 🙂 After almost 18 years of marriage I think
this is the first time we have ever done something like this and we will
definitely do this again. We used a highly recommended resource, Mountaintop of
by Jimmy and Karen Evans. It works best if you can get away for at
least a night but I would encourage you to do something like this even if you
have to stay home and be creative. In this time away we discussed…

Vision for our Family

Goals and Plans to implement the goals. Areas that we set goals in are:
spiritual growth, ministry, finances, sexual intimacy and romance, friendships,
health and fitness, home responsibilities

also talked about all three of our children and what are their unique gifts or
callings, how can we help them develop those gifts and what is God speaking to
us about each child.  (this was
powerful and emotional!)

STRESS – We also
discussed how we can reduce our family stress (as a pastor this was easy 🙂

Planned our Calendar for the next year. 
We put down vacation plans, ministry trips, date nights, children’s
activities.  It also helped us
evaluate what we should stop doing and what we should start doing. 

I would encourage all of you
to consider at least once going on a get away and going through something like
this.  We had a blast and it was
very insightful.  Your spouse has a
dream in their heart and we have the privilege of helping them see their dream
become a reality. Even if your marriage feels more like a nightmare (and Martha
can relate!) there is always hope and you are not alone.  Martha and I got away out or necessity
because our stress level had gotten so high and I would suggest not waiting
until you are desperate but planning this to help prevent a crisis and to
fulfill God’s plan for your family. Men I would encourage you to take the
lead in this and plan the whole trip. 
You will score some huge, mega points with your wife. And you will be
speaking her love language.  They
want us to take the initiative.  If
you would like a copy of the Mountaintop of Marriage you can get it at the
Source Bookstoore, 919-934-3551 or email It will be
an experience you will never forget. 



  • Matt,
    I am excited to hear and see all the fruits of this time you and Martha have spent together. You are both great examples of marriage, parents, as well as friends. Thank you for leading by example. We love you both.