This weekend I had the privilege of co-teaching with Matt on love. The title of the message was “Is Your Heart Breaking?” God’s heart breaks for marriages – His desire is for marriages to persevere and stay the course. We taught from 1 Corinthians 13 & went through the 15 characteristics of God’s Love.
You can watch it here & the main points are below…
1. Patient – Patience = Macro Sumas. Macro means long and Sumas means anger. In other words if we are patient we have a long fuse.
How can I be patient in my relationships? Relfect Before Reacting.
Proverbs 29:11, “A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.”
2. Kind – how many of you know you can be correct but not kind. When we aren’t kind to others they close up their hearts. Kindness is often a key to others being open to what you have to say.
3. Not Jealous – desirious of others stuff or advantages or gifting (competition); if we are not careful we can become competitive in marriage and jealous.
4. Not Boastful –promoting yourself. When you do something you want recognition. God see’s and He will reward.
5. Not Proud –Pride keeps us from hearing each other. When we are prideful we think we know it all. We jump to conclusions. I don’t need to hear what you have to say and I’ll cut you off in mid sentence.
Proverbs 13:10, “Pride only leads to arguments.” (NCV)
Philipians 2:3, “Don’t let selfishness or pride be your guide. Instead, be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves.” (NCV)
6. Not Rude – if we aren’t careful we can be ugly with our words and actions. Ex. using manners.
7. Doesn’t Demand It’s Own Way – It doesn’t have to be my way. There are many people living in one house why does it have to be my/your way.
8. Not Irritable – We need to overcome our differences. If you haven’t noticed men and women are very different. And all the men said, “Amen!”
9. Keeps No Record of Wrong – The problem with hurt is that unexpressed hurt turns into resentment. And resentment is the number one killer of relationships. Hurt will not destroy a relationship but resentment will. When you hide a hurt it turns into resentment. The only thing that can overcome hurt is forgiveness.
Colossians 3:13, “You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.”(NLT)
10. Doesn’t Rejoice about Injustice
11. Rejoices with the Truth
12. Never Gives Up – Don’t quit. Just keep doing the right thing.
Healthy marriages take commitment. Love is a choice not a feeling.
Covenant or Contract?
Covenant is a sacrificial relationship. You don’t make a covenant you cut a covenant. A covenant limits my rights and assumes responsibilities.
Marriage is a covenant relationship. ME, MY Spouse, and God when I can’t stay committed because of my spouse I stay in the relationship because of God.
Contract – is a shallow human legal arrangement; a contract protects my rights and limits my responsibilities.
This is like living together. If things aren’t going like I want I can just get out. I am not committed. A lot of marriages are built on a contract – It your fault and so I am out.
Covenant – if things are not going well in the marriage what do I need to own what can I do? How can I humble myself? What do I need to give up?
13. Never Loses Faith
14. Always Hopeful
God = Love. With God there is real hope.
15. Endures Every Circumstance – It’s not just how you start but it’s how you finish. Let’s finish strong.
1 Corinthians 13:13, “Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.”