I Need A New Spouse

Exodus 16:6-8

So Moses and Aaron said to all the people of Isreal, “By evening you will realize it was the Lord who brought you our of the land of Egypt. In the morning you will see the glory of the Lord because he has heard your complaints, which are against him, not against us. What have we done that you should complain about us? Then Moses added, “The Lord will give you the meat to eat in the evening and bread to satistfy you in the morning, for he has heard all your complaints against him. What have we done? Yes, your complaints against the Lord, not against us.”

The Children of Israel were complaining to Moses that they didn’t have food to eat. But Moses made if very clear that their complaints were not towards him but when they complained it was against the Lord. Have you ever thought of that – when you complain it is ultimately against God.

When you complain about your job, you are really complaining against God because He provided that job.
When you complain about your stuff you are complaining against God because He is our provider.When you complain about the weather, you are complaining against God because He is the creator. When you complain about your HUSBAND/WIFE you are complaining against God because he created your spouse. He knit your spouse together with their personalities, likes and dislikes, if they are detailed or not God created your spouse.

What should the Children of Israel have done when they wanted food? Instead of complaining they should have thanked God that He is their provider and asked for food.

What should we do when we start to complain? We should begin thanking God for our job, our house, our car, our stuff. Praise God that He is the creator of the world and weather. And instead of always thinking and complaining about what you don’t have or what you don’t like about your spouse begin to focus on the good things in your spouse. Thank God for your spouse and how HE created them. And then ask Him for what you need or want. Pray and talk to God about your relationship with your spouse.

(Let me stop here for a second….you can listen to this 6 minute recording of some funny ways this principle has played out in mine and Matt’s marriage and also some Valentine’s challenges; click here on red text & click on the title again on next page to pull up the recording – I Need a New Spouse)

This week before valentines why don’t you every day make it a point to tell your spouse what you do like about them. Even if it is one thing say it or write it or text it everyday. Ask God to show you things about your spouse maybe that you have overlooked and then let your spouse know in some way that you love the way God created them.

If you are like me I don’t want to complain against God and have Him against me, I need God to be for me!!

Romans 8: 31-32 “What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?

  • Thank you. How timely and right on target this post is. It is so easy to complain and expect other people to change. I have truly never thought about when I complain that I am complaining AGAINST God. Wow. Your arrow was sharp and hit it’s target. Thank you Martha, great word.

  • Jane

    so true, so true. thanks for this word. i don’t need a new spouse, i’ve got the perfect one for me already!

  • Manda

    That is so good and so meant for me. Just yesterday I was complaining to my husband about some things in our life that lately seem very difficult for us. Really if I step back, I was complaining not to my husband but utimately to God who has given us these blessings. Being greatful instead of griping is the way I want to go. I’m going to tell my husband something every day that I like about him. That will be fun. Thank you Martha =))

  • Manda

    oops, I meant “grateful”.