I Have Decided – Proverbs 21

Today’s post comes from Paulla Dornheim, Cafe and Bookstore director at C3. 

Today’s Reading: Proverbs 21

Today’s Key Scripture: Proverbs 21:9,19 “It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home…It’s better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.”

I can recall many incidents that just have gotten on my last nerve! Though they were small and probably insignificant, I had just about had it! I did what I believed all wives were required to do: I nagged and complained about it and I stored those incidents in my mind along with all the other times that he was late for dinner, socks were dropped on the floor, anniversaries and birthdays were forgotten, an empty toilet paper roll was left in the bathroom and…you get the picture.

Then one day the Lord had had enough of my childishness. He brought a clear picture of my behavior to mind. I was convicted that day of my attitude of arguing and complaining and I realized that my voice and my words were accusing and negative.

I realized that instead of praising God for my husband and all of the good qualities that he brought to our marriage, I was literally tearing him and our marriage into pieces. I went to my husband immediately and asked his forgiveness for my attitude and then I resolved to do everything I could to be the Godly wife that the Lord had called me to be. Our marriage is not perfect, but I can tell you that those small irritating things are no longer as important as my acceptance and love of my husband, God’s gift to me.

Even though this story is directed to women, The Message Bible version reads:

Proverbs 21:9 “Better to live alone in a tumbledown shack than share a mansion with a nagging spouse.”

Proverbs 21:19 “Better to live in a tent in the wild than with a cross and petulant spouse.”

So it may be you, gentlemen!

Praise God every day for your spouse and all the unique, wonderful qualities he/she brings to your marriage. Think of ways to praise and affirm them as an important part of your life and then tell them!

Prayer Focus: Father, forgive me for the times I have spoken to my spouse in a disrespectful way. I thank you for the man/woman that you have given me as my spouse. May I always remember that he/she is your gift to me and to treat him with the love and respect that he/she deserves. In Jesus’ name,  Amen.