It’s February, and one thing that we always think about in the month of February is LOVE! Stores are already full of candy and cards to celebrate on the 14th. During this ‘month of love’, I want to share with you different scriptures and insights that have been helpful for me on the topic of love. Here is a great post from Jimmy and Karen Evans, who are the founders of Marriage Today. Their books and CDs have made a huge impact on mine and Matt’s marriage, and I hope that your marriage is blessed by this blog from Jimmy & Karen Evans as well…
A Special Type of Love
“There is an odd truth concerning love and marriage. Understanding it is an important key in making marriage and other relationships work. The truth is – we don’t have the ability to really love without the power of the Holy Spirit working through us.
In Galations 5:22-23, the Apostle Paul tells us the fruit of the Spirit is “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, and self-control….” According to this scripture, we don’t have the capacity to love without God giving us the ability as we surrender to Him.
Often, when people say they love someone, they are just talking about sexual desire or a passionate feeling. THese kinds of feelings come and go.
So how are people able to ‘love’ when they don’t know God? They can’t. At least they are not able to love with God’s type of love. God’s love is a special love the BIble calls ‘agape’. It is a love that flows out of the will and does not change. It is the most stable and predictable kind of love and the only type that can provide a lasting foundation in marriage.
Often, when people say they love someone, they are just talking about sexual desire (the Gree word, ‘eros’ where we get the word erotic) or a passionate feeling (‘thumos’ where we get thermos). These kinds of feelings come and go. When they go for very long, many people give the old line “I don’t love you anymore” and are out the door.
Agape love, however, is a committed and sacrificial love that is modeled after Jesus. When Jesus tells us He loves us, He isn’t talking about a feeling that comes and goes. He is telling us He is committed to us forever and will not change. Whether His feelings for us are positive or negative, it doesn’t change His commitment to us.
We really need to consider what we mean when we tell our spouse, “I love you”. Are we saying that we are experiencing a fleeting feeling or are we saying we are committed to him or her forever and will demonstrate love regardless of bad feelings or negative circumstances? It isn’t wrong to epress a feeling, as long as when that feeling isn’t there any more, you can still say “I love you,” and do the right thing regardless of the situation. People controlled by their emotions are unreliable, and their moodiness can do a lot of damage to relationships. The most stable and dependable people in relationships are those who are submitted to the influence of the Holy Spirit. They are powered by a supernatural love that will do the right ting through thick and thin.
Ask God to fill you with the power of HIs Holy Spirit. He never intends for us to go around trying to love people out of the shallow well of our own emotions. The ocean of HIs love is always available to any of us who would just admit our weaknesses and depend on Him. His agape love is the highest love and will transform any persona, relationship, or marriage under its influence.”
Let’s be women who are controlled by the Holy Spirit and love like Jesus! Martha